It has been brought to my attention, directly and indirectly, on multiple occasions that I have somewhat unconventional blogging and social media practices.
I can’t say I disagree with you.
I don’t think I’ve ever left a comment on my own posts. If I have it was a mistake and I’ve deleted it asap. The great thing about WP is that all comments (at least the ones left with email addresses) get emailed directly to me. I can usually get back to people fairly quickly.
If comments pour in on a particular post then I usually decide to do a follow up post. It seems to work out well so why change things?
I started blogging before social media ever existed so the best way to get people to read your blog was to comment on other people’s blogs, and hope they returned the favor. Sometimes it works, sometimes it didn’t.
I’m glad the practice went away, mostly because I felt like come kind of “comment prostitute” who said a lot but not much at all, and all at once. I’d usually laugh out loud when someone called me a “genuine and caring person” because of a comment I left, when all I was trying to do was get noticed.
As much as I find social media overwhelming I’m glad it’s taken some of the pressure off in regards to driving traffic.
These days it’s much more common that I want to leave a comment but I’m not able to, whether it be because of profile settings or the internet ate my comment before (or sometime after) I clicked “submit.”
I was reading a CP-related blog, written by a mom with a school-aged daughter with CP. At the end of the post this mom asked that if anyone had suggestions or advice to offer and if they did, to leave a comment. What followed was a rather spirited debate over the “right” thing to do, if you want to even call it that (depending on what your definition of debate is).
None of it was/is surprising. It happens a lot in the CP community (and I suspect the same goes for other health/wellness communities).
It’s just another one of the many glaring examples why I don’t comment on posts as much as my 1st instincts tell me to, as much as I value my instincts. Also diplomacy is not my forte, so crafting my thoughts before shooting off my mouth serves myself, and the greater good, much better.
The more I’m in and around the world of “health blogging” (and to some extent blogging in general) the more I learn. The more I learn about other people, like what brings them to blogging and what they bring to it. I’ve also learned what people have come to expect from me as a blogger, whether they know it or not.
I know a lot about living with Cerebral Palsy. After living with it for close to three decades (and hopefully longer) I’m something of an expert. However I am not a doctor. I have no formal training. I can only speak from personal experiences and secondhand accounts. I can provide insight but I’m far from infallible.
Every case of Cerebral Palsy is different, and mine is no exception.
Emphatically throwing in my two cents to a confused parent seeking advice through their own blog doesn’t typically sit well with me. What works, worked, or hasn’t worked for me, might not be the same for someone else. I’ve been on the receiving end of unintentionally broken promises (especially as a child). I cannot, and will not, do that to someone else, especially to a child who has someone else making all of their decisions for them.
So why do I even have a blog if I’m so cautious about giving advice?
I have a blog because I want to speak for myself and maybe help others in the process.
Leaving a comment is limiting, in my view. You can’t go on forever, and even if you do people will stop reading. Commenting isn’t supposed to be about the person leaving the comment (in my opinion) but rather about the person (or post) you are commenting on. Comment forums on blogs aren’t the place to drag your soapbox. I also find it easier to “hide” behind your comment(s).
If you have something to say you should take ownership over it. If you don’t want to take ownership over your opinions then you should probably keep your mouth (or your computer) shut.
I also find it hard to remember what I said from one comment to another. While it can still happen on a blog it’s easier for me to catch on my own platform and address if needed.
I do find ideas for my own posts from other people’s posts or comment forums, so I can’t be too anti-comment (and I will often link back to the inspiration). However putting my own thoughts on my own forum allows me to take ownership, as well as some level of control, of my experience in my own words. I don’t have to “duke it out” with anyone unless I choose to, and if that happens it’s usually one on one so there’s some additional level of respect and privacy (which is also why I don’t typically tweet someone back and have an unknown number of people know about it).
I don’t comment, not because I don’t have anything to say. I don’t comment because I wish to be intentional with my words and actions. Having my own platform allows me to do this the best way I know how, no matter what the topic or issue at hand may be.